It sounds like you handled a very challenging situation with a lot of grace and strength!

Standing up for yourself in the face of disrespect can be incredibly difficult, but you did it with class, and it seems like your boyfriend supported you throughout. His response to his mother’s text was especially significant—showing that he values you and is ready to put his relationship with you above family dynamics. It’s tough when family members struggle to accept a new partner, especially when they’re still holding on to the past, but it sounds like you’ve set a clear boundary and asserted your presence in a way that left no room for misunderstanding.

You handled a tough holiday with a lot of poise, and sometimes, those moments of conflict can lead to better understanding and change down the road. Whether or not your boyfriend’s mom remembers your name next time, it seems like you’re ready for whatever comes next. Plus, it sounds like you’ve now got a killer turkey recipe as a backup!