A woman had stated that her father had gifted her an apartment, and she decided to rent it away, since she was already living on a place. When her boyfriend had learnt that, he wanted half of the money she was receiving as a payment from renting her house.
She had shared her story on Reddit, and wanted for advice from Redditors.
“When I was 18, my dad gifted me a house with two stories. I am extremely thankful, we are not upper class but my dad bought this house for a cheap price a long time ago (it was his grandmothers cousin’s house). I know that this was an extreme privilege and I am forever grateful for this.” she had explained that her father had bought a house for her when she was 18.
Then she stated that her boyfriend moved in with her, and was not paying anything besides groceries, “My boyfriend 25m moved in with me about three months ago and we have been together for six months. I have not asked him for money, neither for utilities or to pay me any rent. The only thing he contributes to is groceries, that we split 50/50. I have not brought up that I own the building as it is not something I tell many people, if people ask me I of course tell them that I own it, but if they just assume I am a renter then they can believe that. The topic of a landlord, the renter downstairs or the owner of the building has not been something we have talked about.”
After a while, her renter stated that the freezer was broken, and they needed a new one, which her boyfriend had learnt from that conversation that the woman was the owner of the building. “This last Tuesday the renter came up to tell me that her freezer has stopped working. I answered the door and my boyfriend heard us talking I suppose. I went downstairs to take a look and we came to the conclusion that she would buy a new one, send me the receipt and I would give her the money. She was very grateful for this solution.”
Her boyfriend had learnt from the conversation as, “When I went upstairs my boyfriend asked if it could be fixed, I told him no, but she was going to buy a new one and I would pay for it. He looked at me like I was crazy and asked me why the hell I would pay for her freezer, I told him that because I am her landlord and the freezer was there when she started renting, I would stand for the cost. He just asked me if I was serious, to which I said I was.”
Then they had an argue as, “He begun screaming at me, asking him why the hell I would hold this information from him and that I was an evil person. I said I was sorry for not telling him but I did not think that it would matter. He said he could not believe he was together with someone who is a landlord, that all of us just use people for money and that the only thing “we people” care about is money and would rather have people be homeless then offering affordable rent.”
She gave information of the house, and stated that she is trying to be a good landlord as, “(The downstairs is 1 kitchen, 1 bath and 4 other rooms, I charge 500 dollars in rent). I understand many people have had trouble with landlords, but I try my best to be a good one. He demanded that I give him 50% of the money I make from rent or else I was just as bad as he thought.”
Then she asked for advice, “Was I really the a**hole for not telling him? He has not talked to me since Tuesday and I have tried telling him that I am truly sorry but he doesn’t answer me at all.”
Here are some of the advices from the Redditors,
“Let me get this straight. He must not have offered to pay half of the rent, because then it would have come up and you would have told him, right? He is living with you rent-free. Up to now, he thought you were paying the entire rent. On what planet does he deserve half of the tenant’s rent money? Please reconsider this relationship. NTA.”
“This is reason 5067 why you don’t move in with someone after three months of dating. Landlords are evil, their money is dirty, but also give me 50%? Boy bye.”
“NTA OP. (Former) BF is deluded. Why in the world did you never ask him to contribute to rent and utilities? Was there any kind of convo about expenses? Leeching off a woman you’ve been dating for 3m is just gross. You have NOTHING to be ‘truly sorry’ for. He hasn’t talked to you since Tuesday? Fantastic. Keep it that way. Block his number, change the locks NOW and leave whatever belonging are at yours in a box outside the front door.”
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